We all know about the honeymoon phase of a relationship. In those sweet first months after you meet someone special, everything revolves around that person. You become absent minded about other areas of your life and your partner seems to be the perfect manifestation of everything you ever wanted.
The awful truth is that in most cases the honeymoon phase doesn’t last until the honeymoon. One day you wake up and you stop seeing the world in pink. You face reality and you discover the side of your partner that is less than ideal and you wonder: When did we lose the magic?
Luckily, there is a way to make your relationship last and improve it every single way. We have collected the best advice for you from our best-selling authors.
1. Love Is A Skill
Most of us grow up thinking that love is a feeling we cannot control and so we don’t have to put in any work to build a healthy relationship. Relationship experts would disagree with that and state that love is more of a skill which you need to practise every day. You don’t need to settle for the models of living that you have experienced with other partners or that you have seen in the life of your friends and family. You can create your own rules with your chosen one and you can deliberately learn something about them every day. Relationships are mirrors, so study your partner wisely.
2. Respect Their Freedom
Once we commit we start compromising over smaller or bigger aspects of our life. We often give up some of our passions or stop hanging out with people who used to be important for us. We think that this will bring us closer to our partner but at the same time, it drifts us away from the person we are, further and further away.
It is key to protect the passions in our life and to remain the person our partner fell in love with. Similarly, we need to give them the freedom to live life fully and be conscious about our own insecurities that might hold them and our relationship back from growing. Communication is the key to everything so the first step is to speak it out and find a way that makes both people happy.
3. Embrace Imperfections
When our partner becomes a regular part of our lives, we start to be critical about them. Interestingly, it turns out that the more critical we are with ourselves the more critical we are with other people. It is essential to build a strong foundation of self-love in our heart and then project that loving energy onto others. Your partner cannot make you happy if you are not already happy with yourself and you will find that the more comfortable you are in your own skin the less you care about the imperfections of your one and only.
Relationships do take work but not the way we would think at first. Embrace yourself, respect each other’s freedom and practise love every day and you will be the first example of how to live happily ever after.